Feedback Thoughts
5 Tips for Taking Feedback Like a Champ
This article was good because it brought up the fact that it is important to understand that people give feedback, negative and positive, because they more than likely care about you or want you to do better. Sometimes it can be hard to understand that because in the moment all we hear is what we're doing wrong. I also agree that it is vital to distinguish what is a trait and what is a state. Feedback is commenting on a state that someone may be currently in, and they can change the state that they're in if they wish. It's all about growing from feedback and reaching potential!
Why Rejections Hurt So Much And What To Do About It
Rejections are one of my biggest fears, and over time at college and in life I've learned to take rejections with acceptance. This article states that self criticism is a huge problem when it comes to rejections, and I completely agree with it. Whenever I used to get rejected, whether it was from a person or a college or job, I would always think "If I wasn't this way" or "If I didn't act like this" and it would ultimately make me feel very down on myself. I understand now that it is important to review what happened and maybe why I was rejected. And if it is possible, I could even ask what made them reject me and then I can work on that aspect and hope for a better future! Having a good support system to fall back on is always very important. There have been numerous times where my friends and family have helped me through difficult rejections, and without them I don't think I would have bounced back as well.
(Rejection. Ted)
This article was good because it brought up the fact that it is important to understand that people give feedback, negative and positive, because they more than likely care about you or want you to do better. Sometimes it can be hard to understand that because in the moment all we hear is what we're doing wrong. I also agree that it is vital to distinguish what is a trait and what is a state. Feedback is commenting on a state that someone may be currently in, and they can change the state that they're in if they wish. It's all about growing from feedback and reaching potential!
Why Rejections Hurt So Much And What To Do About It
Rejections are one of my biggest fears, and over time at college and in life I've learned to take rejections with acceptance. This article states that self criticism is a huge problem when it comes to rejections, and I completely agree with it. Whenever I used to get rejected, whether it was from a person or a college or job, I would always think "If I wasn't this way" or "If I didn't act like this" and it would ultimately make me feel very down on myself. I understand now that it is important to review what happened and maybe why I was rejected. And if it is possible, I could even ask what made them reject me and then I can work on that aspect and hope for a better future! Having a good support system to fall back on is always very important. There have been numerous times where my friends and family have helped me through difficult rejections, and without them I don't think I would have bounced back as well.
I read that article. Thanks for linking it here! The most interesting piece for me was this:
ReplyDelete“Because we [perfectionists] tend to attach our self-worth to performance and have unrealistically high expectations for ourselves, recieving less-than-perfect feedback threatens to shatter our fragile self-worth - - so we do what we can to avoid or discredit it.”
PREACH
At my job we have a phrase called “fearless feedback” which is designed to create a safe space to share and improve together.
Rejection is rough. Sometimes it knocks you down out of the blue. One time I went out for this internship and didn’t get it. The whole time I was waiting for the decision I thought I would be totally fine if they didn’t take me, but once I got the email I broke down. It was so weird! Luckily I had my own support systems in place and quickly realized I had plenty of other options!